Woman Accuses Sister of Punishing Her Kids When She Refuses to Free Babysit for Them, Despite Harbored Resentment From the Kids Ruining Her Wedding, Causing Family Uproar

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    I snapped. I told her I'm not her built-in babysitter, and after the wedding stunt, she should be the one apologizing to ME. She got all huffy and told the whole family I'm "punishing her kids for no reason." Now everyone's blowing up my phone, saying I'm cruel for "turning my back" on Lisa when she "needs help."
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    r/AITAH • 21 hr. ago LuckyInternet5072 AITA for refusing to babysit my sister's kids after what she did at my wedding?
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    Hi, so this whole thing has been blowing up in my family and I don't even know where to start. I'm (26F) married for about 6 months now to my husband (28M), and honestly, I thought everything was fine between me and my older sister (33F). Let's call her Lisa.
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    Growing up, Lisa was always "the favorite." My mom would bend over backwards to help her with anything, whether it was money, school, or her kids. (She has 3— 7M, 5F, and 3M). I'm not saying Lisa's a bad mom or anything, but she leans HARD on the family for support. And me? I'm just the "free babysitter."
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    Well, when me and my husband were planning our wedding, I made it clear it was our day. I didn't want drama, I didn't want chaos, and I told Lisa (nicely!!) that I didn't want her kids at the ceremony. The reception, sure, but the ceremony was going to be small and intimate, just 40 people. She flipped out about it
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    but finally said, “Fine, whatever, do what you want."
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    Fast forward to the wedding day. I'm standing at the altar, holding my husband's hands, and guess what I hear? A BABY SCREAM. I look over, and there's Lisa, trying to shush her 3-year-old who's having a meltdown right there in the middle of my vows. I was furious but kept my cool in the moment. After the ceremony, I
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    pulled her aside and was like, "Why did you bring them? I thought we agreed!" She just laughed and said, "You didn't mean it! They're family."
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    I told her she disrespected me and my husband, and she needed to leave the reception if she couldn't keep the kids under control. My mom, of course, took her side, saying I was being dramatic and "kids will be kids."
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    So I guess I'd already been harboring some resentment, but here's where the real issue starts. A week ago, Lisa texts me saying she needs me to watch her kids for the weekend because her and her husband want a "much- needed break." I told her no, I had plans (which I did, but even if I didn't, it's not my responsibility).
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    She called me selfish, saying I "owed her" because "family helps family."
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    I snapped. I told her I'm not her built-in babysitter, and after the wedding stunt, she should be the one apologizing to ME. She got all huffy and told the whole family I'm "punishing her kids for no reason." Now everyone's blowing up my phone, saying I'm cruel for "turning my back" on Lisa when she "needs help."
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    But I'm standing firm. I'm not a free babysitter, and I'm not gonna let her walk all over me anymore. So, AITA for refusing to babysit and drawing a line?
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    No_Cockroach... • 21h ago • Well...all the ones who say you are turning your back, why aren't they volunteering to babysit as Lisa needs help? You are not punishing the kids, their parents should be spending quality time with them.
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    Your sister is not only very entitled but has always taken you for granted and did not respect your wishes during your wedding. NTA
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    Lisbei 21h ago • ΝΤΑ Congratulations for growing a spine! Please hold on to it and don't let your family walk all over you anymore.
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    Burby-Honey-... 21h ago. Let's forget about the wedding disrespect for now. The truth is you have a life that does not revolve around her and her kids. Even if she respected your wishes on your wedding day, you're still not obligated to babysit. Let those "taking her side" also take her kids.
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    ArugulaMental... • 20h ago • Whoever tries to change your mind you should say: "Ah so you are volunteering to babysit! Good I will let my sister know she can count on you”. Then hang up and immediately send a message to your sister: "This person is volunteering in babysitting
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    duties. If you need help then turn to her/him." Soon your sister will have a long list of "volunteers" and in the future if you are asked again then just say "I will not babysit but and ... and ...... are always ready to help you"
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    Temporary Alf... • 20h ago • Nta "yes mom kids will be kids which is why they are not welcome here and that was made clear." Why are you keeping these people in your life.
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    Bellette 20h ago · • • NTA. Sounds like you're finally drawing some healthy boundaries. Your sister thinking it's cool to crash. your vow moment with a toddler tantrum is like someone streaming ads during your favorite show finale. Stick to your guns;
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    free babysitting isn't part of the sibling contract!

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